Most people grow up with brothers and sisters, and that may or may not be a good thing. Of course, it all depends on how your relationship is with them and the rest of your family.
If you happen to be the youngest brother or sister of your family, you probably know how difficult it can be to live in your older brother or older sister’s shadow. Likewise, if you are the oldest sibling in your family, you may feel a great deal of pressure to lead by example.
The youngest and oldest children usually have very different personalities, but what about the middle children?
We all remember Jan and Marcia’s feud from “The Brady Bunch.” Jan was disgusted by how popular, attractive and perfect her older sister Marcia was. To make matters even worse, Jan’s younger sister Cindy was extremely cute and adorable. Being the middle child, Jan felt that she never received an adequate amount of love and affection from her parents. While most people think that Jan suffered from some type of inferiority complex, there’s actually more to it than that.
For many years, psychologists have been studying the connection between behavioral patterns and the birth order of family members. After decades of investigation, it was discovered that there are several distinct characteristic traits of children who are born in a specific birth order.
Even children that grow up as an only child will demonstrate unique characteristics.
Since birth order plays such a significant role in an individual’s personality, we have decided to thoroughly examine the characteristics of children who are born in a particular birth order.
How Your Birth Order Impacts Your Personality
Children who are born first often lead the pack. First born children will usually display cautious, conscientious, and reliable behavior. New parents tend to coddle and watch over their first born child more than their other children. This is due to the fact that most new parents don’t exactly know what they’re doing. So, new parents will often stay close to their newborn baby’s side.
The constant presence of adults in a firstborn child’s life will begin to rub off on them at an early age. Children who are born first tend to be more serious and driven than children who were born as the middle or last child. When a firstborn child grows up to be a man or woman, he or she will usually maintain several of the personality traits that they developed during childhood. Firstborn children tend to make good parents and workers. Their serious demeanors allow them to accomplish great things in life. The downside is they tend to be perfectionists.
The Middle Child
It’s not uncommon for middle children to feel inadequate and unloved. The earlier example of Jan from “The Brady Bunch” shows how rough life can be for a middle child. While parents love all of their children equally, newborn babies require the most amount of attention. A middle child can get lost in the shuffle, and parents are sometimes unable to provide the necessary amount of affection that a middle child needs.
Middle children tend to be popular in social settings, and they can also be rebellious at times. The lack of a parent’s affection can cause a middle child to seek attention elsewhere. Since parents are busy watching over the youngest child, middle children tend to walk to the beat of their own drum. While middle children can be jealous of their younger siblings at times, a middle child will often protect his or her younger brother or sister.
On the other hand, however, middle children can also become very independent and adaptable. They can turn out to be the peacemaker within the family too. Despite it being rough to be the middle child, middle children tend to turn out pretty well in life.
Last Born Children
Children who are born last in a family tend to have charming personalities and are easygoing and fun-loving. However, last born children can also be manipulative and self-centered. The last born child is used to having all the attention to his or herself, and they will usually do whatever it takes to get it.
Last born children tend to go with the flow, and this is especially true when they become adults. Firstborn and middle children tend to complain about small things more than a child who was born last. Furthermore, last born children tend to have a slight disregard for the rules. This is mainly due to the fact that they always get their way as children. But, this can actually be a good thing. Research indicates that the last born child of the family is usually the most creative.
An only child is constantly surrounded by their parents. While this is a good thing, parents will tend to put a lot of pressure on an only child. Most children who are born without any brothers or sisters tend to be perfectionists. An only child will usually act extremely mature for his or her age, and this can get a bit annoying to classmates. Nonetheless, an only child is dedicated to making his or her parents proud and usually behaves in a conscientious manner.
It goes without saying that only children tend to be responsible and loyal. They can also be a bit sensitive and demanding.
Too much pressure from parents can cause an only child to feel overwhelmed. However, the constant loving nurture that an only child gets cannot be duplicated.
While the order of birth is definitely connected to certain personality traits, humans have the ability to think and act on their own. Birth order alone will not determine your future, but many of the characteristics that are developed at an early age will.
Twins: Children that are born with a twin brother or sister will usually not be affected by the rules of birth order. Unless, of course, a set of twins happens to be born first, middle, or last in a family.
Gap Children: Children that are born five years or more after the last child of a family was born will tend to exhibit traits of a first born child. Experts claim that large gaps between the births of brothers and sisters can cause a “second family” effect.